Gay Marriage Happened Because We Refused to Marry Marriage Itself

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This last month 5 un-elected judges single-handedly struck down thousands of years of history and declared that homosexual people could “marry” one another. The audacity of man to think that he could overturn God’s laws has been shocking and appalling. But none of this would have happened if we had cared about marriage enough to marry it.

Sure, I’m married to my wife and she is married to me. But are we married to marriage? I’m sad to say we’re not. And you almost certainly aren’t either. And more importantly, God knows we decided to not marry marriage.

It all would have been so simple. But we didn’t take marriage seriously enough. We didn’t love marriage enough to marry it. And now look what happened. Pretty much anyone can get married to anything as a result. Before you know it, polygamy will be legal everywhere and then people will be marrying their pets or their favorite song, and marriage will be more meaningless than ever.

It all would have been so simple. But we didn’t take marriage seriously enough. We didn’t love marriage enough to marry it.

It didn’t have to happen this way. If all of us–heck, even just some of us–had been willing to commit to loving marriage as much as or more than our spouses, then this would still be a land where the true meaning of love and commitment was still honored and respected, in the form of millions of people saying “I do” to marriage, and not just to their husband or wife.

I don’t know. Maybe we don’t deserve marriage. Maybe this is really our fault in the end. Maybe we took the easy way out and merely married spouses instead of what we should have been marrying all along–marriage itself. If we’re honest with ourselves, we know why we did it. Marriage can be hard, and marrying marriage–even harder. After all, marriage, unlike a spouse, can’t tell you it loves you back, or sit with you when you’re sick, or tell you it’s always going to be there for you when no one else will be. But the most rewarding and important things in life aren’t meant to be easy; they’re just meant to be worth it. And we threw it all away.  We forgot that marriage was all about an idea so important that you had to marry yourself to it, not about merely human love, or commitment, or friendship, or recognized communal responsibility, or financial security, and other such nonsense. What else could the building blocks of a society be made of than an idea that could only be enacted by socially or ritually forming a recognized union or legal contract between a heterosexual man or woman and the grandest concept in the universe?

But we can start now. We can salvage the true meaning of marriage in this country by finally coming to our senses and taking marriage seriously. We must put marriage above our own marriages and truly honor the most time-honored tradition in the history of the universe for the first time. But this time, let’s just try to make sure that we don’t tell any gay people we’re doing it.